2020 – Not A Year To Remember

A ‘bad year’ will henceforth be relative to that in which an invisible organism bound the entire world together in misery. I hope the bar will never be reset.

My mood was upbeat – broken jaw and all – when I published my post on setbacks & silver linings last December.

I did get to dance and drink – think I ate well enough too but it’s the drinking I remember more clearly – at the wedding my niece organised so meticulously for her daughter in late Jan.

We left for Chile towards the end of February, the farthest west we have ever travelled, and managed to make it back home mid-March by the skin of our teeth.

We had just landed in San Pedro de Atacama with five days to go on our itinerary, when I happened to read a government advisory shared by a friend on Twitter. It spelt out deadlines for institutional quarantine for returning travellers and the closure of (our) borders in under a week. Chile closed its borders two days after our return.

I imagine there are silver linings there if I care to look for them. The stars that aligned to get us back at practically no extra cost. The gathering of almost every member of our extended families at the wedding which seems unlikely to happen again and not just in the foreseeable future.

I cherish the time I got with both my sisters and their families and especially my (older) brother-in-law who seemed to have only survived sepsis three years ago to be able to witness his grand daughter get married. He gave up his fight in July in the middle of one of our stringent lockdowns. Much as we miss him, we think he’d earned his release.

It’s been hard not being able to be together when we needed to be the most. Hard, coping with the anxiety and the loss. Although I am acutely aware that my privilege, in a country where a huge majority suffered extreme hardship, made it relatively less hard.

Being constantly reminded that we are in the high risk category drove us into a paranoid shell that we were beginning to get comfortable in. It took the passing of a very dear friend (of a massive heart attack) last month to shake us out of our paranoia and on to the road to visit his wife in Bangalore.

Last week, we dined out for the first time in nine months. With an eighty seven year old friend who refuses to let a mere virus curb his style. ⁠

“This virus isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, we’ll just have to learn to live with it.” ⁠ Heck, those were my lines just a year ago!

It’s going to take a while more to stop wiping down everything that comes through my door with disinfectant, but i’m getting there and certainly looking forward to the one thing I’ve missed even more than travel: my impromptu coffee dates with my closest friends. ⁠

Otherwise, it’s been an endless flow of hours into days into weeks, stuck inside our four walled universe. In a home that we’d treated like a transit point between trips up until now. It’s a good thing we never got down to downsizing to a studio (apartment) or one of us would be locked up for murder by now! I spell out our lockdown routine in a bit more detail in this July DestinAsian Magazine feature. Thanks again for the feature James.

I’ve spent the last couple of months tidying up this blog (read ruthless pruning), organising my photo albums on the cloud and adding travel planning & guide pages in response to requests from friends and readers.

I’m keeping the ‘useful’ content separate in pages (as opposed to posts) in an attempt to appease the SEO gods. Because segmented paragraphs with titles isn’t what I enjoy writing but is, apparently, what the average reader looks for. Let’s see how that, as well as my resolution to post at least once a week, goes.

I’ve completed two travel guides so far: Gorilla Trekking in Rwanda and a mega Guide to Egypt. The latter includes updated older posts with loads of added details and a downloadable ten-day itinerary in the form of an e-book. I’ve also updated my Bagan post into a more detailed guide. Would love feedback if/when you find the time to read.

I have plenty more city break and country guides coming up. If you have a destination in mind – for future travel – and see it listed here, let me know in the comments below. I’ll be happy to move that place up the queue.

Delving into my archives and into travel forums to update latest details feels like the next best thing to researching for travel currently. Working on the Egypt guide has ignited a desire to return to that ever fascinating country with a small group when travel eventually opens up.

Not making any serious plans for now, but I’m cautiously optimistic for the future of travel. Who knows? The tempering of excessive enthusiasm might just lead to more meaningful journeys.

Meanwhile, many thanks to all you patient people for sticking with me despite my long absences. I hope you, your families and friends are staying safe and well.

Big hugs and warmest wishes for as beautiful a festive season as possible under the circumstances and a happ(ier) year ahead.

Featured image: A monsoon sunset from our living room balcony.

PS: In my eagerness to ’tidy’ up the blog I turned a few personal posts to private without realising that toggling them back to public isn’t an option. Apologies in advance for any notifications you may receive for re-published old posts. I assure you there aren’t too many.

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Madhu is an Interior designer turned travel blogger on a long sabbatical to explore the world. When not crafting stories on The Urge To Wander, she's probably Tweeting @theurgetowander or sharing special moments on instagram.com/theurgetowander

41 thoughts on “2020 – Not A Year To Remember

  1. Wonderful to read you again, Madhu. Your title is apt; I hope to never see another year like this one even though, like you, we were lucky to largely ride it out in relative comfort. We had the added sweetness of some meaningful and memorable family events (a first grandchild born to our son, and our daughter’s wedding, albeit nothing like the event we had planned!), and so far our extended family has stayed pretty healthy. I’m happy to hear you are doing pretty well also, and I’m sorry about the losses you have endured. Here’s to 2021 and a chance for new adventures!

    1. Congratulations Lex…so excited for you! And best wishes to your daughter and her spouse. You can always plan another celebration when this wretched pandemic is done with.

      Thank you so much for your kind words. Wishing you a joyous Christmas with the newest addition to your family😍

  2. It’s interesting to read the title of this post because honestly this year passed by too soon for me. When I looked up some photos from my past travels, at first I often thought that I took them not too long ago, and then I realized that they were from last year. Where has 2020 gone? Monotony has become part of many people’s lives during the pandemic, and the feeling of doing something we hadn’t been able to do for months due to government restrictions is just indescribable — although of course our health should come first in these crazy times. Speaking of Egypt, it has been up there on my wishlist for the longest time, so it would be interesting to reread your updated posts. However, for the time being I think I’ll stick to domestic travel while building up a post-pandemic travel destination list to keep me hopeful of the future. I hope you remain well, Madhu, so one day we’ll see each other again — hopefully this time it’s you who travels across the Indian Ocean! 🙂

    1. To quote a friend, I’m not adding this year to my age 🙂
      We’ll be sticking to domestic travel too for a while. But this pause is giving me time to set up content that people might find useful when they are ready to travel. I’m normally on full travel planning mode all the time and am hard-pressed to find time to devote to writing. I hope we are able to make it across to Indonesia by 2022 at least. It’s certainly high on our list and not least because of you guys. Wishing you better days ahead Bama.

  3. Yes, lovely to see your post in my inbox, Madhu! I love the way the universe helped set you up properly for the “lockdown.” And I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you much fondness and good wishes! Love, Riba.

    1. Thanks very much dear Riba. It’s been a depressing year, but also one in which to take stock and count my blessings. I’m impressed that you haven’t given up on your ’62 for 62′ theme. I so need to develop that discipline! Much love and hugs to you too.

      1. Oh! Just found this, Madhu. And now with six-ish weeks left I have only 28 posts left in order to meet that goal. Hee hee hee!

  4. Wonderful to hear from you, Madhu! I’m sorry about your trips but thankful that you’re both healthy and it sounds like you’ve been keeping busy in a good way. We’ve had a different year as well. We moved to Arizona at the end of March to be near my 93 and 91 year-old parents and we’re also close to my brother and his family. It’s also a big change moving to the desert but never a dull moment. Enjoyed the interview of you. Take care and stay healthy.


    1. Thank you Janet. The move to the desert sounds wonderful. You guys have such a wealth of natural landscapes to explore around you. This was the first year I regretted our decision to move into a big, crowded city instead of settling down in the hills. Have new found empathy for prisoners 🙂 Wishing you a joyous Christmas with your family.

  5. So good to see you again, Madhu. Your lockdown time sounds to have been very productive. Well done. We’ve been living almost normally apart from not being able to visit family this year. We’re hoping for a better 2021 and are looking forward to being able to get the vaccine before too long. Wishing you and your husband everything of the best for this holiday season.

    1. Thank you Sylvia. Hope restrictions ease enough in 2021 to be able to visit your family. Love and best wishes to you too.

  6. Happy to hear from you, Madhu – and that you are safe and well this crazy times. We are OK too, but the darkness here is getting on our nerves now. We haven’t seen the sun for two months. Wish you a Christmas as good as you can make it!

    1. Just Googled weather in your area…less than an hour of sun! I can imagine how that might get to you. I find it hard enough coping with a few gloomy monsoon days in a row. Wishing you a miraculously bright and sunny Christmas if it is at all possible Ann Christine. Hang in there❤️

      1. Well – we were promised a glimpse today – but it did not arrive. The 21 of December the light will start coming back! A happy and healthy Christmas I wish you will have too!

        1. That’s great news…something to look forward to. Also expecting the Jupiter and Saturn alignment on that day to be visible to the naked eye.

  7. Bentornata Madhu, sono contento di leggerti.
    Questo 2020 che sta andando via lascia degli strascichi pesanti, ma andiamo avanti, Viva la vita, sempre.

    1. Grazie mille Paolo. This year has been hard and I’ve come close to deleting this blog, but I’m back with renewed focus. Here’s to better days ahead.

  8. It’s always good to find you here, Madhu. It sounds like you’ve been far more productive than me this year. Within the restrictions we’ve been living a more or less normal life, but as we approach Christmas sadness creeps in. We had hoped to be in the UK. But the youngsters are well and happy so we have to be grateful for that. All the best to you for the year ahead. 🙂 🙂

  9. I still haven’t eaten out since February, but remind myself daily how lucky I am that I ate out for over seven weeks travelling through Korea, Taiwan and Singapore last year (I’m still blogging about my trip) and then spent six weeks with family in Australia returning to Canada just before your flight to Chile. My financial situation hasn’t changed either, but whenever something drastic has happened in my life I asked myself, “What have I learned from this?” I hope the world can reflect on some of its practices such as our treatment of animals for food which has caused mad cow disease, avian flu and now I suspect cover#19, and learn to change enough so we don’t rely on the next vaccine as the only solution.

    1. I hope so too Mallee. But current behaviour doesn’t hold out much hope. Hotels in Goa, Pondicherry and several hill stations are apparently packed. All poised to become hot spots again.

  10. Indeed not a year to remember… and it seems there still are ‘leftovers’ of its ‘goodness’! Here’s to better days, my dearest Madhu. I look forward to your wanderings… as always! Many hugs your way.

    1. Thank you dearest Marina. The notifications for your posts have been comforting even if I haven’t stopped to comment as often as I would have liked to. Warmest wishes to you snd Oannes❤️

      1. Ah, that is so sweet… it’s really been a hard year and in many ways. Here’s to better days, Madhu and warmest wishes to you too! ❤️🤗

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