The Winds Of Change……

Some rather far fetched myths are ascribed to the reason why South Kanara – the province that Mangalore is a part of – adopted the matriarchal system of inheritance, as early as 10AD. (You can read a rather sketchy and badly written version here. Is there anything Wiki doesn’t have a handle on?) This was a very progressive law for the time and continues to this day, albeit restricted to ancestral property.

According to this system, ancestral property was passed down from mother to daughter.  Sons had life interest, but were entitled to one share at the time of partition or sale, while their offspring had no claim whatsoever. Upon their death, their nephews took over the running of the property and their families were expected to return to their matriarchal homes! Daughters on the other hand could lay claim to one share each for every single living member in their household!

Even today, when there isn’t a lot of ancestral land left to be carved up, one is said to be ‘born’ in the fathers house but ‘belong’ to the maternal family! (Complicated I know!) Having a daughter was therefore crucial to carry on one’s line of descent! (Mine ends with my grandsons :-( ) This is unique to this region and to some communities in neighbouring Kerala and Nagaland in the North East. The rest of India hankers after male progeny……preferably fair.

Things didn’t always work out of course. And the widows sometimes returned to empty coffers and pledged land. It was to protect their families from similar fates that some patriarchs used their personal wealth to build houses of their own. This was the house R’s grandfather built for his young family in the same village as his ancestral home, and close to the family temple*.

Kateel house from the gate

My mother in law was born on the day of the housewarming, on the 5th of May 1926. R’s stunningly beautiful grandmother never tired of bragging about how she served a traditional celebratory lunch to each of her guests and then quietly retired to her room to deliver her youngest daughter, her sixth child! (She had two more sons in the course of the next four years.)

View from the West. The coloured glass on the shutters long gone.

She also never tired of talking about her house.  About the egg tempera glaze on the columns, the beautiful stenciling around the cornice, the amber and blue glass on the shutters, the beautifully carved wooden pillars, the gorgeous blown glass oil lamps and the room on the first floor decorated with frescoes to commemorate the visit of the Maharaja of Mysore to the family temple. It became a kind of tradition for every grandson (except R!) to celebrate their wedding night in this ‘Rangda Malige’ or ‘painted upper floor’.

R never knew his grandfather, who passed away just over a decade after moving into his new home. But he remembers holidays spent in this house with his uncles and aunts and numerous (22 in all!!) cousins, where he smoked his first cigarette hiding in the fields, and was offered his first drink by his grandmother. He talks fondly of the love and the laughter that filled the house. And the food. Somehow our memories of home are so intertwined with food.

Stenciling around cornice

But the glory of the ‘Zamindar’ system, as with most other feudal systems in the world did not last. Change was imminent. Feudal became a bad word in the increasingly socialist scenario. Sweeping land reforms transferred their lands to their tenants and they lost their primary source of income. The daughters, usually married to well educated professionals, were mostly spared. The sons that adapted and made the transition to salaried class, followed their dreams in distant lands. Those that remained in their crumbling mansions were devastated. Having been wealthy beyond the necessity of working for a living, left them ill equipped to cope. They resisted, drawing lines in the shifting sands, isolating themselves from the realities of the modern world. They just knew no other way.

Arched opening leading to the East courtyard

By the time I entered the picture the slide had begun. Fun family gatherings recreated for me, fleeting images of life in the not too distant past. We laughed, we drank, we ate and we left. The grand old lady, still so ethereally beautiful at 90, remained. Like an apparition in a haunted house, alone with her memories. Unable to adjust to city life with her daughters, unable to cope with not being queen of all she surveyed. The family gathered again for her funeral.

Elevation of hall accessed from the main courtyard

Many years later my mother-in-law’s life came full circle when her body was returned to her childhood home. And as per her wishes, cremated in the exact same spot in the field next door in a beautiful ceremony that I had never witnessed before, and likely never will again. Meanwhile, the empty shell of her father’s house awaits its death knell.

* The Hindu Religious and Charitable Endowment Act grants state governments the power to take over all Hindu temples with an annuual income exceeding Rs. 200,000, thereby making them hotbeds of political intrigue. The Kateel temple, is now being administered by the state government (although the family is still entitled to nominate a titular trustee) and has been garishly restored - think electric blue and baby pink on ancient wood and stone!! The inner sanctum cannot be touched, thankfully.

 

About these ads